Reaching a custody arrangement is never easy for divorcing parents. Yet, the process can be particularly challenging if you and your spouse do not see eye to eye. You two may have very different ideas of what an ideal arrangement looks like, and tempers can rise if negotiating becomes difficult. But there are ways you can reduce the tension during your custody dispute that will help you avoid serious conflict.

Put your children first

No matter your feelings toward your spouse, you likely both have your children’s best interests in mind. By prioritizing these, you may be able to find common ground with your spouse and start working out an arrangement. Mediation can help ensure you both have a voice in the process. When using mediation, an attorney will be available to help you work through difficult moments in the conversation and ensure your rights as a parent are upheld.

Take the high road

If your divorce is acrimonious, you could feel troubled by their words and allegations. If they question your parenting abilities or conduct, you may fear your odds of receiving custody or visitation will diminish. Yet, providing evidence refuting their claims – such as records of your time and relationship with your children – can help establish the facts. Maintaining composure can help you keep the process as civil as possible.

Keep an open mind

You may have a specific custody arrangement in mind, yet it sits at odds with your children’s schedules and needs. If it does, you will want to consider that arrangements evolve over time as your children’s lives change – and as your life changes. Treating it this way, rather than as static, can help you compromise where it matters for your children’s sake.

Working out a custody arrangement can be difficult but it is not impossible. By focusing on your children, your present circumstances and maintaining a calm demeanor, you can do your part to prevent conflict during the process.