Effective coparenting with a former spouse who is in the military

Effective coparenting with a former spouse who is in the military

On Behalf of | Nov 22, 2023 | CoParenting |

Co-parenting is a challenge that needs teamwork and adaptability.

When your ex-spouse is in the military, this journey gets even more complex. Therefore, you should understand how to make the co-parenting process effective.

Keep talking openly

Enlisted individuals have a divorce rate of 3.5%, while officers have only a 1.7% rate. The Navy has the lowest rate at 2.8%, while both the Marines and Air Force experience a 3.3% divorce rate. One major contributor to most divorces is insufficient or inadequate communication.

However, to co-parent effectively, you need to communicate regularly. Share updates about your kids, their school and any major or minor events in their lives. Military life can be unpredictable, so keeping communication open helps prevent misunderstandings and makes co-parenting smoother.

Be flexible with parenting plans

Military schedules are not consistent. Therefore, you should create a parenting plan that is flexible, taking into account the uncertainties of deployments, training and moving around. Being flexible helps you adjust to the challenges of military life while making sure your kids’ needs come first. Build backup plans that work for both you and your former spouse during deployments, training and emergencies.

Embrace technology

Plan ahead and figure out how the military parent can stay connected with the children during these times. Technology, like video calls, emails and working on projects together online, can be a big help in keeping the family bond strong despite their miles apart.

Keep things consistent

Having consistent routines and rules in both households can make transitions between homes smoother for kids. Consistency gives them a sense of security, which is especially important when dealing with the challenges of military life.

Successful co-parenting focuses on what is best for the kids. As you approach your co-parenting challenges, put their needs first.